Q&A: Letting Little Girls Dress Provocatively…Can someone explain this?
Question by Lisa S: Letting Little Girls Dress Provocatively…Can someone explain this?
I’ve always been ill at ease when I see young girls wearing “big girl clothes”, I’ve had friends who put their kids in dance classes, then cringed my way through recitals where BABIES were taught to “strut their stuff” in front of a crowd.
I didn’t think it was “cute”, “precious” or “funny”…but the parents didn’t seem to mind. The day does not pass when several people here don’t worry about how “fast” our young are growing up…and I am wondering HOW people can allow this sort of thing, and not expect it to happen.
Performing aside, I have seen little girls (age seven tops) playing in the park wearing low riding hip huggers to show off their thongs.
Are these parents out of their minds, or am I just hopelessly out of date? I don’t understand “tarting up” our children.
A woman recently published a book called “Stop Dressing Your Six Year Old Like A Skank”…so I am pretty sure I’m not alone.
Thoughts?
Wow…so it isn’t just me.
I have no problem with kids doing dance, and the like…I just have issues with the places that insist on making them, look like pint sized women. They are KIDS.
And as to the mom who reminded us that parents do the buying—right ON!
I have so had it with the dismissive “well what can you do?” parents who shrug, and give in. When our kids were babies, we didn’t let them play with electical outlets because they “wanted to”, abd this strikes me as no different.
Thanks for the replies…and I will keep watch on this one!
I was shopping recently with a friend in a high end department store, and saw these bikinis…along with the bootie shorts to match…the sizes? 2-6X.
Enough already…is it really wrong to let a girl be a kid?
Best answer:
Answer by Tiffanya B
I completely agree with you
What do you think? Answer below!
I do think these parents are out of their minds. I think they’re really making their little girls targets for creeps and I think they’re teaching them long-term bad habits about how they dress and present themselves…the only reason I can think of is that they just think it’s cute and they want their little girl not to feel out of place with all the other trendy girls…but when and if I have a daughter, I will try to balance fashion with modesty…I think a girl can still be beautiful and modest.
I agree. The one time on the phone w/my sister she relayed a story to me that she had gone through w/her ex’s mother (the ex lived w/the mother). Her daughters (due to her lazy ways) would take their laundry to the grandmother’s house when visiting w/the father.Well, my sister received a heated phone call from the grandmother saying that she had not problem doing her granddaughters’ laundry but she was not about to do hers (my sister’s) laundry as well. My sister asked her what she was talking about and the grandmother said about washing her (my sister) thongs. My sister promptly replied that they were indeed not hers (my sister’s) but her daughters’ (my nieces’). My nieces’ were 9 and 13 at the time. WTF?!
I’m sorry, had I had little girls, they would have been dressed as little girls, Little Shirley Temples until about 2 or 3 (maybe 4 if I could get away with it) and proper young ladies there after (if I could get away with it, I would settle for tom boys as well).
Edit: I just remembered, there was a term used at one time to describe kids dressed this way, PROSTITOTS.
You’re definitely not alone! I’m about to have a baby girl and this is one of the things worrying me. I ont’ want to see her dressing like a whore. Children are being sexualised at a very early age, and it’s sometimes very difficult to go against what “people” say.
I think the major thing to remember is that you are you child’s parent and not “them!”
I know exactly what you mean and completely agree with you. I see it all the time and think badly of it. I don’t know what people are thinking, maybe it is because children look up to adults and siblings who dress like this, and want to be like them, yet that still doesn’t make sense to me if the parents are choosing what they wear.
My daughter takes dance and you are absolutely right. I cringe from the makeup, They have to load it up so the faces can be seen in the audience or some crap like that. I am lucky that her studio tends to do dances and costumes on the conservative side. At least compared to the other studios in the area. Sending them to parks, schools, or other activities like that. I don’t understand. I don’t think it’s cute in any way shape or form.
Thongs on little girls??? You have got to be kidding me! What are these parents thinking? Everyday some nut-so snatches a kid that is dressed somewhat normally and does sick stuff to them….it is like these parents are putting a big bulls-eye on them! What ever happened to letting kids be kids?
I want to know what thongs and bras are doing in the little girl department. My 6 year old wears a size 7, and these things come in her size.
If we didn’t buy it, they wouldn’t make it. I think too many women are trying to live vicariously through their daughters, and ironically seem to want them to make the same mistakes.
I’m not a button up type of person, really. I think people have too many hang ups on sex, nudity, etc. But, there’s no need to rush a child into being an adult.
I am a substitute and can tell you how badly I cringe when so many boys are wearing their pants below their butts and so many girls are walking around in pants with big letters on their rear ends, including “flirt.” Some schools have dress guidelines, but with so many rule breakers, many schools just don’t have the you know what to enforce rules.
I’m going to sound old now, but in my day we did it right. Flannels, ratty jeans, combat boots…we were anti-authority, anti-cookie-cutter-consumer-blandness. We took the Proletariat clothes and made them cool.
It’s sad that this generation hasn’t found its voice.
You are not alone my thought is that the parents are IDIOTS. Need I say more?
Dance class aside, have you seen the parents of kids who dress inappropriately? These parents have no clue what it means to dress correctly! No wonder they don’t mind dressing their kid as such.
Even when I was 13 years old, the way some girls my age (then) dressed was weird to me. As an adult now, I’m disturbed. Kids shouldn’t be sheltered, but there is deffinitley a a line to be drawn.
Kids strutting their stuff on stage is cute, within reason. Dressed like a little ____ is not, but if the costume is appropriate then yes it is cute and precious. As for letting my kids dress provacativley, no way! Until they are 16 and can make their own choice, then they dress in what I buy them. If they buy something that I don’t know about and wear it respectively, that is their choice (14 – 16). I think kids should dress like kids and that fashion icons for kids should dress more “kid like” as well. Thanks to Miley Cyrus, Hilary Duff “stuff by duff” and Britney Spears (when she first came out) my sister’s age (19) were dressing like tarts at 12.
ugh! tell me about it! i saw a girl maybe 8 years old? walking around the store in a mirco mini, lepordprint tights, and a tank top cut so low you could see the training bra she was wearing! my thoughts: o…m…g…
but honestly look at the freaking dolls they have now!! have you SEEN the scraps of so called clothes that BRATZ wear? and don;t get me started on Barbie… shes getting worse and worse.. im waiting for them to come out with like night club barbie or stripper barbie! “get her drunk watch her clothes fall off!”
why do these parents let them dress like that? do they think its cute? cause to me it looks like your begging a pedophile to get your child! between the media and parents who let their kids dress as such no wonder the age of teen pregnancy keep getting lower! (i had my son at 17… im considered “older teen” because ya know all the 13 year olds having babies!)
its horrifying…